Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Radfems & Trans* folks, II

Radfems & Trans* folks, II

Diane Dimassa, on the exclusion of transwomen from Michfest:

But, as Susan has explained to me,
Michigan’s official policy is that Michigan is a space for women-born
women who have experienced what it’s like to grow up female in our
patriarchal society. And just by saying that, they recognize that there
are different types of women.

Now–should I say this on the record? It’s just fucking typical…

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Radfems & trans* folks

Radfems & trans* folks

Andrea Dworkin via Renee Martin via Twisty:

Transsexuality* is currently considered a gender disorder, that is, a person learns a gender role which contradicts his/her visible sex. It is a “disease” with a cure: a sex-change operation will change the person’s visible sex and make it consonant with the person’s felt identity.

Since we know very little about sex identity, and since psychiatrists…

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Radfems & trans* folks

Radfems & trans* folks

Andrea Dworkin via Renee Martin via Twisty:

Transsexuality* is currently considered a gender disorder, that is, a person learns a gender role which contradicts his/her visible sex. It is a “disease” with a cure: a sex-change operation will change the person’s visible sex and make it consonant with the person’s felt identity.

Since we know very little about sex identity, and since psychiatrists…

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In Solidarity With Those Who Have Been Called “Too Much”

In Solidarity With Those Who Have Been Called “Too Much”

From Bevin Branlandingham:

I was told by someone I went on a couple of dates with that I was “a lot to get used to.” It brought up a lot for me–I had so much rage around being told that and it took me a few weeks to unpack. It felt like being told I was too much, even though I know that wasn’t the intention. I guess this post is my way of turning that unexpected rage into productivity…

It took so…

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Feeling Depleted

From Sarah Ahmed:

Sometimes you can only stand up by standing firm. Sometimes you can only hold on by becoming stubborn. A social standing can thus be a material standing. Audre Lorde once wrote: “In order to withstand the weather, we had to become stone” (1984: 160). It would be hard to overestimate the power of Lorde’s description. Social forms of oppression can be experienced as weather. They…

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Saturday, July 19, 2014

On Roles, II

Nick, on roles:

The talk about roles shifting is something I’ve been think about a lot. Partially because I see myself taking on new roles (trying to be the “cool uncle” figure to Tilley’s nieces, while simultaneously arguing with my own uncle…), but also in a more general sense. I don’t remember who, but some rabbi I read a while back talked about starting and ending your day by reflecting on…

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On Roles, I

I listened to a show recently on recognizing and managing dementia. Gurney Williams talked about what happened when he realized his wife needed full-time, out-of-home care, and talks–with warmth–about the period after she moved into a care home:

We started looking to a new life for all of us. And I particularly began to come out of a hermit phase that I was in. To reach out to people, to realize…

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Sunday, July 13, 2014

On Learning Self-Care

It’s taken so long to figure out what “self-care” is. And I’m still working on it. 

In some serious ways, I was neglected as a child. Not in the casual sense, but the clinical sense. Kids learn to care for themselves by being cared for, and seeing other people take care of themselves. In many basic and important ways, I wasn’t cared for. And my parents weren’t great at caring for themselves,…

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Friday, July 4, 2014

Journal Entry: Trigger City

Journal Entry: Trigger City

I spent so much of my early life without much touch and craving it badly, that I usually enjoy even the touch that happens in haircuts, eyebrow waxing, physical therapy, etc. And massage, of course, is wonderful.

I’ve started seeing a massage therapist. I can’t really afford it, but my body needs something, so I’m giving it a shot. Today was my second session.

I lie down on the table, unders only…

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Thursday, July 3, 2014

Middle Age

Many of my friends are alone and know too much to be happy though they still want to dive to the bottom of the green ocean and bring back a gold coin in their hand. A woman I know wakes in the late evening and talks to her late husband, the windows blank photographs. On the porch, my brother, hands in pockets, stares at the flowing stream. What’s wrong? Nothing. The cows stand in their own slow…

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